Overcoming Emotional Insecurity
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One of the greatest challenges faced by women today is emotional insecurity. It is that feeling of nothingness over the meaning and purpose of our lives. It is the lack of confidence or trust in ourselves and in God. To call it what it is; emotional insecurity is our failure to trust God. It is placing our hope and security in vain and temporary things.
As women, one area in which emotional insecurity hits us the most is in our looks. Globalization, the social media revolution, Photoshop, airbrushes among other factors have largely lessened our self-confidence. People would take more than ten pictures until they get the right one, and then edit it with a million filters… all to upload a perfect photo. We see these pictures and we feel we are not good enough or pretty enough and it becomes hard for us to embrace who God has called us to be. It’s almost like we forget that people are imperfect and show only what they want to be seen. Then we get depressed because we don’t look as good as they are. Unfortunately, looks will fail us because they are built on a foundation called society. We should however, rid our thoughts of societal pressure and start finding the beauty in our own lives. Remember Esther?
Each girl’s turn came to go in to King Xerxes after she had completed the twelve months of prescribed beauty treatments — six months’ treatment with oil of myrrh followed by six months with perfumes and various cosmetics. 13 When it was time for the girl to go to the king, she was given whatever she wanted to take with her when she left the harem for the king’s quarters. 14 She would go there in the evening; in the morning she would return to a second harem overseen by Shaashgaz, the king’s eunuch in charge of the concubines. She never again went back to the king unless the king took a special liking to her and asked for her by name.15 When it was Esther’s turn to go to the king, she asked for nothing other than what Hegai, the king’s eunuch in charge of the harem, had recommended. Esther, JUST AS SHE WAS, WON THE ADMIRATION OF EVERYONE WHO SAW HER.
Esther didn’t focus on comparing herself with the other ladies (I bet they were also very beautiful), rather she was content with her own portion. We must remember that we are beautifully and wonderfully made by God. He makes no mistakes and our value isn’t found in any man’s opinion.
Women also have a false sense of security in wealth and possessions. The world preaches that if you accumulate a lot of things you are blessed, if you don’t you are cursed. As such there is a rat race over who gets the most expensive things. If you don’t have the latest iPhone, newest car, fattest bank account or whatever else, then you are considered a failure. It’s almost like whoever has the most things wins in life and that is totally incorrect and not biblical. The Bible is clear when it tells us not to put our hope in things on this earth but in God alone.
1 Tim 6:17-18(NLT)
Teach those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which is so unreliable. Their trust should be in God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment.
Another area of emotional insecurity is that which arises from thoughts about the future. What will I eat tomorrow? What will I wear? Oh God! Will I have a good marriage? Will my husband be wealthy? Will I have the best job? It’s okay to express how we feel to God. However we shouldn’t murmur or let these questions throb our minds because when we do, we only doubt Gods ability to meet us at the point of our needs.
32 People who don’t know God and the way he works fuss over these things, but you know both God and how he works. 33 Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, God-provisions. Don’t worry about missing out. You’ll find all your everyday human concerns will be met.
Emotional insecurity is a leech that sucks us dry of happiness, faith and joy. It would often time result into depression, envy,jealousy and hatred. This is not what God wills for us. His will is for us is to have peace and joy that is insurmountable. Now the question arises, how do we overcome emotional insecurity?
We must disregard and forget who we are in the eyes of the world and focus on who we are in the eyes of God. We must stop reading or listening to people that would make us feel worse about ourselves. We will only find validation and worth by prayerfully and constantly asking for Gods help and by constant reading and meditating on the word of God. When we read Gods word, we know the mind of God and His thoughts towards us. When we meditate on it, we focus our thoughts on it, reflect on it, ponder on it and apply it to our daily living. With the help of the Holy Spirit we become convinced and subsequently accept what Gods word says about us.
Never stop reciting these teachings. You must think about them night and day so that you will faithfully do everything written in them. Only then will you prosper and succeed.
Yes! We would have success that would permeate every imaginable area of our lives – spirit, soul, and body. Success in overcoming emotional insecurities, and other lies of the devil. Amen! We must know that we will overcome, albeit progressively. The journey might be mountainous, the victory will not be sudden, but it will sure happen.
Haven’t I commanded you? Strength! Courage! Don’t be timid; don’t get discouraged. God, your God, is with you every step you take.”
God loves us unconditionally irrespective of our looks, educational background, wealth, marital status. Isn’t that all that matters?
The Post at A Glance!
Summary One of the greatest challenges faced by women today is emotional insecurity. It is that feeling of nothingness over the meaning and purpose of our lives. It is the lack of confidence or trust in ourselves and in God. To call it what it is; emotional insecurity is our failure to trust God. It is placing our hope and security in vain and temporary things.
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